What if…3

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Multiple babies born….

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This is my post for Thursday December 5th…

Things happen all the time, and usually are a pretty big surprise… “What if” Your wife was expecting, triplets… At the last visit to the doctors you were told that all babies where healthy and growing bigger… Okay, you are all prepared for three babies and all your families have been helping with the preparations for the births… As the days go by your wife keeps getting so big that walking is a chore for her…. The doctor says it’s all going well, and puts your wife on bed rest… It’s a week before the date of the births… The doctor books your wife into the hospital, and she is going to be induced the next morning… The nurses are all ready to take each child and take care of them… Kay your wife is brought into the operating room.. Kay will have caesarean births.. You have your armor on and you are sitting talking to your wife… The incision was made, and baby number 1 was a healthy girl… Baby 2 was a boy and baby 3 was a boy… Then the doctor keeps doing birth after birth.. The final baby was another girl.. You are blown away as the operating room becomes a flurry of nurses and doctors milling around.. You now have 7 babies… You give the family the news.. What are you going to do now?? You and Kay live with her parents, and room is what is going to be needed… What if mom and dad what to buy you a house for your new family… Would you want the house close to the relatives?? After all you will need all the help you can get… The births become a big event in your home town and all kinds of things are being given for the babies… The news paper has the big event on the front page.. Many people are ready to help when the babies come home.. Once the babies are at home, the house is filled with many people, and you and Kay can barely have time together… What would you do to have time together alone??? What if:  the family sends you away for a weekend, and Kay doesn’t want to go?? What would you do??? 

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What if: A scientist came on the television to tell the worlds population, that a meteor was heading straight for Earth… Also, the meteor impact is due in seven hours.. Would you try to get as far as you could away from the impact point?? Would you gather everyone you knew and take them with you?? The impact would set off a massive explosion that would be felt all around the world… The possibility of life being wiped off the surface of the planet was a definite… Would there be a safe place to go?? All Questions of what if:  There would be nothing that could be eaten, because of the explosion… Would you know where to look for water to drink?? What if: you came across a bomb shelter?? Would you move in there and hope for the best?? That would be a definite conundrum…. ‘What if’s’, can bring on just about anything, or any surprise… 🙂 🙂  Get ready for that which is out of your control…

gran driving red  lips (2).jpgMAGS… Everyone have a great weekend and the days leading up to that weekend…See you all on Tuesday next week.. Be safe  🙂 🙂

 

What if…2

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This is my post for Wednesday December 4th…

Hey, would you go and rob a bank with someone?? What would your answer be, and would you gladly go and help… Would you consider running the other way, or act like you don’t speak their language…. Would you point and yell, “the police are coming this way”… Would you calmly ask him to have beer with you, then talk over his plans and ask what bank… Would you go to the police station and give a description of the man and where you seen him… Would you sit outside the bank and watch the whole robbery go down.. Would you beat him up and take the money he just stole from the bank… Would you keep the money, and return it to the police.. Would you move far away, and never work again… Really, that is a lot of ‘what if’s’ for one topic…. Personally, I would love to have the money, but the fact of being a wanted criminal would keep me away from that proposition… I would also become someone who speaks a different language… :O

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What if: you came across a house on fire, and there was a child crying from an open window… What would be the first thing you would do?? Would you break down the door and race through the burning house to the room where the child is waiting.. Would you scoop the child up in your arms and carry the child to safety…. Would you return into the burning house to see if anyone else was in the house…. Or, would you just call 911, and wait for the firer fighters to show up… Would you let someone else save the child while you watched… Would you be the hero of the day?? This would likely be a tough one for some people, and not so hard for others… I personally would be the crazy one who goes charging into the building to save the child…. I would give the call to 911 to the closest person I seen… There are many stories of those who save or help other people everyday.. Firer fighters are a classic example of hero’s…. Their job takes them to life threatening events each and every day… There are brave bystanders that put their own on the line too… So, to all those that go above and beyond… “You are definitely, super hero’s… 🙂 🙂

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What if: Someone walked up to you and handed you one million dollars… Would you stand there stunned and unable to speak.. Would you be wearing the biggest smile on your face.. Would you just look at them as they were crazy… Looking at them with all your face twisted and distorted… Would you grab the money and run… Would you kiss them and try to shake their hand right off… Would you pinch yourself to make sure you were a wake… That would be a very strange event to have happen to anyone… I would hesitant to believe if it was true, and not a gag played on you by one of your friends… And once I was convinced it was real, I would be humbled by someone else’s kindness and their generosity.. 😮

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What if: Someone wanted you to jump off a cliff wearing a flying suit… Would you politely say “No Thanks”… Would you let them know that you had never done that before, and have no idea how the jump is done… Would you explain that you are afraid of places any higher than ten inches off the ground… Would you be brave and say “Yes” just to make your friends think you were not afraid.. Would you do it to mark the jump off your bucket list… Personally, I would be the person standing 600 yards back from the edge… I would politely decline… 🙂 🙂 I’d be scared out of my wits… :0 :0

gran driving red  lips (2).jpgMAGS… Have a great day Wednesday when ya get to it… 🙂 🙂

 

 

 

What if….

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This is my post for Tuesday December 3rd…

Well, the weekend is over and we have snow… I thank mother nature for the on and off blizzard conditions we had Sunday… The roads were crapy and slippery, but we did okay out there… I watched my grandson Saturday and had a blast.. He is growing so fast and he is funny… He has is very own laughing style which is as cute as ever.. Oh, and I’m not just saying that because he is my grandson.. Our dog Doo, followed him everywhere he went… She even turned him around once or twice.. She faced him off, and he turned right back where he came from.. She is so good with him… He even took a nap on papa’s chest… Actually they both took a nap… I thoroughly enjoyed every minute with him, and so did his papa… Here we are and December has hit us full force… I’m all worried that what I have to give is not enough… “I know” What ever I give should be okay… I know I can only give what my pension tells me I can afford… We are only 22 days away from Christmas day as of Tuesday… 🙁  Oh well… 

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This question has always crossed my mind a million times… The question is: “What if.”  I have many things I would wish for, and be thankful to get… But, those are wishes, wishes we all ask for.. “I wish to win the lotory.”But, I have no horse shoes, four leaf clovers, special spells,no coins for the wishing fountian, or potions that have ever made my wishes come true… I believe I am destine to be comfortable, in this life.. There will be no wishes granted, no special events, no large amount of money won… Grant you, I am thankful for that which I have and the people that surround me each day.. I am thankful for my family even if we have bumps that need to be climbed now and then.. I am thankful for my in-laws and the crazy they add to the crazy that already lives here each day… “You know” If I just won a large lotto just once, I could change the lives of many people that need the help… My plans have always been to give some of it away to sick kids, the SPCA, soup kitchens, homeless shelters, and to my family members who struggle each day.. “Ya sure” I can’t ever see that happening… So here I am wishing and hoping each day.. 🙂 🙂

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What if, we had our own small house  that would be owned by us… I would be no longer worry about and be afraid of rising rents, that just keep going up and up.. Eventually, we will be unable to stay where we live.. That will be a very sad day when we have to move away from here.. We are on our fifth year renting this home… Five years of familiar faces, same neighbours, and great summers in the gardens we have grown here… I know we can replant the gardens, and get to know new neighbours… The thing that makes me the saddest is how far away would we have to go to find a place that doesn’t eat up all our pension??? Plus, how far away would we be from our family members and familiarities that we grown to know??? Where is this place?? And will we be fortunate enough to be accepted ahead of all the others that are on the search for cheaper housing… I have my dogs and I will NOT give them up to live somewhere.. I did not do that to live here, there fore, I will not ever seperate from them…. WOOF WOOF…

There are plenty of “what if’s” in life, and I will talk more about this topic on Wednesday December 4th… Till then.. Be safe out there…. 🙂 🙂

gran driving red  lips (2).jpgMAGS…   Thanks for your smiling faces… 🙂 🙂

 

 

 

Darkness 3…

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This is my post for Thursday November 28th…

This will be my last part of my post on the darkness, Depression and Suicide.. This is a very important topic as the topic comes to the fore front of the news, and other media agencies.. I, like many are hoping that the awareness of depression will draw out the people suffering, so they can get some help… These agencies are like an olive branch in a time of need.. The word is getting out to everyone, and Doctors are making attempts to help all they can.. But, like all things in this world, no one can be forced into finding the help and continuing with the help they have asked for… Sometimes, being safe behind that locked door is where most of us would rather hide… Not every body understands the security of silence, but I sure do…. I am safe inside out of sight to those who stare and whisper to others.. There are too many judgmental people that sneer and run you down when you’re not there… These people are cowards and will not belittle you to your face… It’s the bully in the school yard syndrome that we all carry in us.. 

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Drugs, guns, cutting, jumping out in front of vehicle on the road ways, jumping off bridges, structures, hanging, poison, and many others I have not listed.. These are the choices when it comes to ending all the pain and hurt.. “Yes.” This ends the pain the person suffers relentlessly for heaven knows how long… Little children have the advantage, for someone else will be getting them help… This continued help will drag their minds away from the darkness… Adults are their own helper they need to decide for their future… I know of many who try to over analyze their feelings to the point that they think their situation is hopeless… Negative thinking is a poison that deepens depression… Those that carry baggage also become depressed… The fact that it happened before is their handful of pills that returns them to the darkness.. Uncertainty will heighten their depression, and they will always fear a hurt that may not even be there… Fear is the enemy… Depression is not a friend… 

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Sadness is an emotion that loved ones feel when they find what has happen to someone they love… The feeling of “If I only noticed”  “If only I could have seen the signs”  “If I only knew what was happening.” The guilt they feel and the tears they cry for the one who has hidden away in the darkness… But, it is too late, for now they will find depression… A depression that is fueled by guilt, anger and emptiness for not seeing a love ones pain.. The nightmares that play over and over in front of their eyes…. The sight of your lifeless body, that just a few hours before was alive.. The blood, the pills, the note you left behind, the place you were found and the ending of your life will be in their memories forever… Friends will innocently ask how you are, without knowing you have chosen to take your own life.. The pain will once again remind your loved ones that you are gone… Never to be seen or talked to again.. Your family will bring flowers to your grave, never knowing the reason “Why.” I ask that, those who may read this and deal with depression… I want you to get help… “Now.”    🙁 🙁

gran driving red  lips (2).jpgMAGS… I wish you all a great weekend and the rest of the week… I will see you again, on Tuesday December 3rd… 🙂 🙂

Darkness 2…

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This is my post for Wednesday November 27th…

I started to talk about the darkness of depression.. The fear that lives within the dark.. Depression can be mild or severe, but no matter what, the condition know as depression is dangerous… The mild challenges a depressed person with every thought.. “Am I good enough?” “Why is my mates so mean to me?” “I must have done something wrong to them.” “Why do my parents not love me?” “I am a very bad child.” “Why and what did I do so badly?” These are just a few of the questions that are asked, by a person with depression.. The darkness they feel, brings them deeper and deeper into a place un-inhabitable by anyone… The only option they think they have is suicide… “If I was to die, then all the pain will be gone, and I won’t hurt anymore.” So sad…. 🙁  To the people that love them, suicide is not an option… Most times, all the love in the world is not enough… 

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Statistics show us that in 2019 there were approximately 11 people die by suicide each day… :O  Approximately 4,000 deaths are by suicide per year… Those totals alone are unbelievable, and that is just in the age group of 45-59 years of age… Then there is age groups 15-34  who are young people and adults.. Men have a 3x higher rate then women..  This total does not count indigenous, veterans, homeless, and countless others.. It’s staggering when you look at the stats, and actually see the numbers in front of you.. This is a world of the internet highway.. Bullying can be done by those who just have nothing better to do than to beat another person down… The internet is a great place to gain knowledge, and that’s all fine and dandy… But, there is always the bad apples in the bunch that make a great thing a predator’s haven… “Why must these mean people hurt and drive any person down?” You know the wrong part of all of that is, the people who drive someone to death… They never feel remorse for what they have done… I’m happy I am not one of those rotten humans… “Why hurt others?”

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This epidemic has grown by leaps and bounds over the years… The depressed person is not a coward, and it takes all the courage they have to kill themselves.. It’s their only way out of the darkness, at least that is how the depressed person sees it… ::  I will continue with the last part of my post on Thursday.. Till then have a wonderful Wednesday, and let’s work towards helping those with depression… 

gran driving red  lips (2).jpgMAGS… Be safe, and hug your love ones often… 🙂 🙂

Darkness…

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This is my post for Tuesday November 26th…

Darkness can be measured in may ways.. A darkness that no one else  can see, or can imagine on any given day.. Depression is one of the many problems that live in this darkness.. There is a sadness that follows them each day of their miserable existence… There are so many people who struggle with depression each day… Their struggle is real and can become deadly if help is not given right away… I know of many people who suffer with depression, and the faces they wear are ones of happiness, humor, and love.. These faces make it hard for us to see their pain… These faces make them invisible in a crowd.. Most times they are not in a crowd, but hidden behind locked doors… A safe place where no one can see their tears, their anger, their pain.. The feelings of giving up haunt them in their hiding place.. They feel so alone, and useless to everyone around them.. In their minds they are failures, trapped in an uncertain future.. They have a sadness deep inside.. 🙁

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                       The many signs of depression…

There are many places to turn for help… There are places to call and hear a friendly voice on the other end of the line… Counsellors that are for free to those who finally decide help is what they need… There are groups to sit in on, and talk about the sadness they feel… There are medications that can be given to take the fear away.. There are hospitals that can give care and assistance to anyone that desires their help… There is a common thread that holds their darkness together.. That is the desire and belief that their feelings are private, they are not shareable with anyone… It’s a lonely place to live.. Bullies can taunt their targets only out of cruelty alone… Their purpose is to inflict as much pain in order to feel they are superior and above their targets… Children torment innocent children in ways learnt in their home environments or from other children.. They watch and they learn by others actions… Co-workers, the boss, management, can bully as well… The over bearing miss/mister who live each day to belittle their friends or co-workers… Even parents, and grand-parents can inflict a pain that stings so deeply that depression is the ultimate conclusion..

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I will continue with this topic over this week.. Till Wednesday I wish you all a wonderful day.. 

 

gran driving red  lips (2).jpgMAGS… Thanks for listening to my words… 🙂 🙂

Thinking…

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This is my post for Thursday November 21st…

Thinking is something we all do from time to time.. Thinking seems to attack our brains right at the most inconvenient times.. Like the  sleeper who get the chance to lay awake  thinking when they really don’t want thinking to be there… I am, one of those night thinkers, and believe me that is not a good time to be thinking about everything.. Granted, I have found several solutions to problems and ways to fix things… It’s no way to sleep for sure… Thinking enlightens, and opens us up to possibilities we would have not know before.. Thinking stimulates our brains and sometimes leads use in a new direction… We think from the time we are born till the time we cease to live.. Thinking helps us everyday of our lives… We are thinkers and solvers of this world… 

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Their thinking helps them solve the wonder of learning…. From the time they can see, they think.. “Who is that weird looking person over there looking at me?”  They recognize their parents, and family members that inter-act with them all the time.. “What is this thing that keeps going in my mouth?” The sensation of feeding time, and knowing when they are hungry or messy… As they grow they sit and think… “How can I get over to that toy?” They use their thinking to solve how to move their body parts in order to get the toy.. They think about pulling themselves up on things and stand.. Babies are smarter than we think they are… Just watch them sometimes, and you may see them thinking… 

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We solve , we invent, we create all through using our thought process.. There are many complicated issues that need a lot of thought to solve, and some that are fixed through minimal thinking… There are teams of thinkers put together to come up with a solution on impending problem… ie  How to fix the dam without flooding the farmers lands.. How to build a monster mall… How to create an environment that is pleasing to others, and will draw people to this place… All these events are all possible through the power of thinking.. When we commit ourselves to thought, we can accomplish astronomical achievements…

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Solving the problem when the light bulb comes on in our head… It’s an amazing feeling inside… Your self-esteem is boosted, and you  seem to walk with a lighter brisk step.. We think better of our accomplishments as a part of ourselves.. We gage ourselves using the power of thinking… This is a good feeling that turns about your self worth.. Thinking, solves so many issues whether they be large or small.. Never stop thinking about the things that you have accomplished in your life… We are all part of the solution.. 

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It’s not easy dealing with thoughts that mow us down, and leave us wavering, and not sure of others thoughts.. Thinking we will not be the right style, right body shape, right person we should be to others… Negative thinking can draw you down into depression, and self doubt… “Put that silly way of thinking away”… “Lock it up some place where, you will never find it again..” Thinking about the perception others have of you is a waist of time and energy… Be who you are, and you will feel better in your heart and in the way you are in your skin… I use the, ” I am who I am and if you don’t like it! Poo on you..” I am me and you can’t be liked by everyone.. As far as the people who talk behind your back… They are just school yard bullies all grown up… I say, those that talk behind your back, belong behind you… Walk away from that type of person, they are toxic waste… True people don’t do that to the ones they like or love… We were all made different and we don’t need to stack up against those around us and their thinking… Be who you are and enjoy your life..  🙂 🙂 BE PROUD OF YOURSELF !!!

gran driving red  lips (2).jpgMAGS… Till Tuesday next week.. Enjoy each day… 🙂

The words written here are my opinion and only mine…

Silence…

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This is my post for Wednesday November 20th…

I sit here in the silence that fills this room.. The sound of the furnace chasing away the chill in the room, leaves me with a cozy feeling.. The old furnace has been a faith full companion for the time we have lived here.. Without the furnace I would be cuddled up in layer after layer of clothing and blankets.. The silence here gives me time to think over my actions of the days that have past.. I can hear the settling of the house that surrounds me.. The forever creaking and moaning of it’s timbers.. My mind wonders to many different places during this time of silence.. The surrounding world moves on in it’s rituals of life.. I enjoy the silence as it gives me the time to reflect.. I crave this silence at times, as it is an escape from reality.. The pending thoughts of the day are put at rest in this silent place.. I need not worry, nor think of what’s for dinner… I have time to rest from my rituals of the day.. I am calm and relaxed in these moments, minutes, or even hours.. For, they are my time away..

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I tap loudly on the keys of this laptop.. Keys that help me capture the words that fill the spaces in this place.. The noise of barking dogs as voices become louder… Talking over the noise that continues.. The television blaring so loudly that the people outside can share the content they can only envision.. The sounds from outside… A car spinning it’s wheels in the hopes of escaping the grip of the wet snow that surrounds them… The sounds of voices, voices I don not know nor do I wish to know in my silence… The furnace hums on, as the door is left open to the cold.. The voices that surround me as family meet to share my silent place.. The chatter and laughter are like music to my ears… For, only I wish to have those voices fill the spaces in my silent place… The company has left… The dogs no longer bark, and the television is silent.. The dogs lay sleeping in their cozy beds with covers over their heads… Father is asleep, on the sofa surrounded in warm inviting blankets.. I too wish to feel those blankets surround me in comfort, so I may drift away as others have before me.. I look around at all that has been left behind… The mess will be there after I indulge in the warmth of these cozy blankets… The silence is soothing to my rattled nerves… I drift away into a world of sleep and silence.. 

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This day has drifted into night… The mess has all but disappeared… I am free from the rituals of my day.. I have watched as much television as my brain can handle… I am in search of a place to sleep… A place where my feather filled comforter awaits me.. I climb the stairs to my room, and once there I cuddle under the warmth of this comforter.. The chill will not find me, only the silence of sleep is welcomed here.. I take a deep breath in and feel my body sink into the bed around me.. For, now I am one with this silent place.. As I drift away, my mind has other plans for me… Thoughts crash into my space and fill my head with nagging questions and solutions to problems unsolved.. I roll  to my side in the hopes that the thoughts will not follow.. I turn again as a  flood of unsolved problems roll over me… I resist the calling of those questions and turn once more… I can not escape… Where has my silence gone?? I lay in the darkness letting the thoughts take over my sleep.. This night is long as I do my best to not answer the questions in my mind, and the sights I see when I close my eyes.. Finally, after hours of no sleep the silence comes to rescue me…  I dwell in silence till the morning light finds me tired and unable to face the day… Come again my friend, for you are welcomed… My silence… 🙂

gran driving red  lips (2).jpgMAGS… Till Thursday.. Well wishes to all.. 🙂 🙂

Decorated…

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This is my post for Tuesday November 19th…

Well, the weekend has come and gone.. We are now into another week of  expected snow and rising temperatures… The snow that fell today,(Monday) was wet and heavy, and now the snow is melting slowly away.. Today, I had seven Doves in my backyard and on the porch looking for something to eat.. Before, they were on the ground they had all been sitting side by side on a branch of the maple tree in the yard.. It was cool to see all them lined up together… It was sight you don’t see very often.. I had a grey squirrel, that we see seldom.. He was hogging all the food in the feeder just for himself.. That little devil.. I ended up putting bird food out a second time later in the day.. It seemed like all the Dove’s were happy for the second helping.. 

 

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We have our Christmas tree up, and on the internet there are many people showing off their trees too… Ours is small, but it satisfies both of us.. There are many of the usual decorations we use each year, as many of us do… We put a Chihuahua on the top of the tree instead of the usual angel or star.. The reason behind our tree topper is that we have two Chihuahuas that our the babies of the house.. I don’t know about anyone else, but I find that I have certain ones that mean something special to me… I hope you have favorites too… I have several photos of the ones I like, and I will try to explain why I like them…

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These two little ornaments are cute, and mean a lot to me and my husband.. These were made by Doug sister Wanda.. She made them in the likeness of my hubby and I.. You can see how they look just like us…  They are in memory of the passing of Mom… They have the breast cancer symbol on the front of them… I think you can see the symbol… 

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The next three ornaments are precious to the both of us.. The ornaments of the Santa couple remind us of ourselves.. The minute my hubby seen them he said they looked just like us when we get older.. We were a bit younger then, and could move a lot faster without it hurting…  The Lamp Leg was from the Christmas movie we see each year in the month of December… A Christmas Story.. In the movie Dad has the award delivered to his home.. The anticipation was driving everyone crazy, as Dad torn into that wooden box.. The look on Mom’s face was priceless.. The way she tried to keep the Leg Lamp out of the front room window was honorable… Dad went outside to let the world know his award was displayed in the window.. We had been on the look out for the ornament for a span of time, and we finally found one.. 

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The Nutcrackers are an ornament that I seem to be drawn to, and just love the colors they display… 

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The drummer boy is another favorite of mine.. He reminds me of the Little Drummer Boy…

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I found these two ornaments in an Auction… These are not just cute little mice, but they are bells.. Which you don’t come across everyday.. They look to be quite old.. I like them…

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This the tree topper we are using this year… My sweet husband bought this for me on the weekend.. He knows how much I love anything that is Chihuahua or Pug… Those are the dogs we have… 

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This is a very welly decorated ornament that I came across a couple years ago.. The beads are so beautiful… Who ever did this ornament has some pretty good imagination and talent…

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Last, and the most prized part of my ornaments.. This piece is hand blown glass that has been etched with a most interesting design.. It is so pretty and I believe it is very old.. It reminds me of the ornaments Grandma had on her Christmas tree when I was a young girl… I hope you have enjoyed a few of my very favorite tree decorations…

gran driving red  lips (2).jpgMAGS… Till Wednesday.. Be safe… 🙂 🙂